I admit it, I'm not entirely ready for potty training. We have one more big trip coming up (two weeks in Maui! I can't wait!) and I feel like we should wait until that upheaval's over before we begin.
My husband is ready - and has been for about 5 months.
My 23-month-old daughter? Well, she's surprising me.
We started her on the toilet at about 5 months old, really sporadically - put her on, go "Sssss" and she would sometimes go. Great, but not reliable and I honestly wasn't anywhere near regular with it. The good of that is that she is used to sitting there, not afraid of the flush (she likes to do it herself), and understands what it's for. We also have a fairly open-door policy (where she is concerned) with us using the bathroom. She sees Mum and Dad using the toilet and we talk about what we're doing, wiping, flushing, washing our hands, and so on.
Santa (a.k.a. Mummy) got her some fabulous Big Girl Underwear for Christmas, which made a big impression. She talks about her owl underwear often and I think she's pretty keen to wear it.
I also got this great book out of the library, Diapers Are Not Forever, which we have been reading daily. She is REALLY interested in it, and asks for it, sometimes twice in a row, at bedtime and nap time. I like the way it doesn't dumb things down, but explains how and why we go on the toilet instead of in a diaper. Just like the big kids! I strongly recommend this book, as I think it's really helping her understand and prepare for the change. I have looked at the various lists for readiness (stays dry overnight or during naps, can pull pants up and down by herself, tells when she needs to go, etc) and I don't see it. She will stay dry for a nap (her naps are short anyway), but definitely not at night. She has trouble with her pants, but can do it if she puts her mind to it. She definitely won't tell us when she needs to pee, but is pretty obvious about pooping.
We have had a bit of a breakthrough lately because of that. She was (ahem, TMI maybe) a little constipated this past weekend so it was extremely apparent when she was trying to poop. So we made a bit of a point of taking her to the toilet to try. And we are using chocolate chips and lots of praise as an incentive for successful trips to the toilet.
We had a successful toilet poop on the weekend, and then yesterday caught another one. This morning we were cuddling and nursing in bed (hey, she wakes at 5:30 am.... I'm not ready to get out of bed yet and like to prolong the down time with nursing) when she told me, "I poop on toilet!"
"What?!" I nearly shouted with excitement, "Do you need to go?"
"Yes!" she said, and off we rushed to the bathroom, where she promptly peed on the toilet. Yeah, her diaper was already soaked from the night, and okay, so she hasn't quite got the lingo down. But wow, that's awesome!
And today I have caught her 'trying' to poop in her diaper twice and we made it to the bathroom to do it in the toilet both times.
So we are doing remarkably well with poop... now to figure out how to get her to pee there on a consistent basis!
I'm seriously not in a rush as I feel like the traveling we'll be doing might set us back and that would be frustrating and disappointing for her. I want her to feel proud of her success. That said, I'm not that fond of dealing with poopy cloth diapers - and I definitely want her to be well out of diapers by the time the new baby arrives in June! The time is coming!
My loose plan is go simply go without diapers and straight into underwear (or go Naked Baby style if I don't think she'll catch a chill) and hang out in our tiled (and therefore easy to clean up accidents) basement for a few days. Incentives and praise for success, no shame in misses. I've heard this can be a one- to seven- day process, so I want to be able to set aside and commit the time and effort to it.
What were your successes with toilet training? Did you get on it early, or late? I'd love to hear your experiences.
Note: the links for the book are affiliate links, meaning I get a few cents from Amazon if you choose to buy through these links. I'm not kidding though, this book has really made a difference in the way she perceives going on the toilet.
We started at around 6 months and were fairly laid back. My son started pooping on the potty almost immediately, with VERY few diaper poops starting around that time (about 6 months old). We kept doing diapers mainly out of laziness, until a month or two before his 2nd birthday we decided to just go all out - Sounds familiar!
ReplyDeleteHe already had poops pretty much down but it took a couple weeks of naked time to have an accident-free day when it came to pee. We have carpeting, so were extra diligent! Being a boy, he can easily pee AWAY from himself, which I think made it take longer. He wasn't bothered because peeing on the floor still left him feeling dry. But eventually he started using the potty every time. I yelled at him like a dog if he started peeing on the floor - Sounds mean, but it worked, and he wasn't upset by it!
Now he is 27 months old and fully potty trained at home. He still has pee accidents when we're out sometimes - Because he gets distracted and doesn't want to stop what he's doing - but very close to being 100% there too.
I think you just have to jump into it, as you're planning. I like naked time because undies can take an extra couple seconds to get off... and sometimes you don't have those extra seconds!